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Digital Detox Coaching
Your attention has been sold. This is the programme for taking it back.
A 12-week, one-to-one coaching programme with Ruben S. Seetharamdoo, Registered Mental Health Nurse and author of Digital Detox: The Workbook. Built for professionals who pick up their phone a hundred times a day without deciding to, and who are done pretending that a screen-time limit will fix it.
[Book a free 20-minute call]
The problem, plainly
You do not have a willpower problem. You have a well-resourced industry on the other side of the glass, engineering the exact behaviour you keep blaming yourself for. The evening disappears into a feed. The first ten minutes after waking belong to the phone. The meal, the meeting, the conversation with your child, each one interrupted by a check you did not choose to make.
I spent thirty years in NHS clinical and managerial roles across addiction services, at Harley Street and at the Priory. If you had asked me in 1995 to name the behaviour doing the most damage to the most people, I would have said alcohol without hesitation. Ask me today and I will tell you plainly: it is compulsive digital use. The mechanism is the same one I treated for three decades. So is the way out.
What the programme is
The Great Work is twelve weeks of structured one-to-one coaching, built on my workbook and worked in the order it was written: four weeks mapping the habit and resetting its triggers, four weeks on the body, the ambivalence and the thinking that keeps the pattern in place, and a final month running a measured 21-day detox with daily structure and weekly data.
You will not be asked to throw your phone in a drawer. Total blackouts are the version of a detox most likely to fail. The research points the other way: a detox that is realistic, specific to the one behaviour causing the most harm, and proportionate to the actual pattern, consistently outperforms an attempt to quit everything at once. That is what we build.
Everything is measured. You take a validated-style self-screener in Week 1, Week 8 and Week 12, alongside the screen-time numbers your own devices record. By the end you are not guessing whether it worked. You are comparing three numbers.
How it works
Twelve weekly sessions on video, sixty minutes each. Worksheets between sessions, taken from the eighteen in the workbook. Message support on weekdays for the moments that matter, which are rarely the moments a session happens to be scheduled. Your copy of the workbook is included and posted to you before we start.
Who this is for
The professional whose focus, sleep and evenings are being spent by an app rather than by them. The person who has deleted Instagram four times and reinstalled it five. The parent who wants to be able to say "put the phone down" without hearing the obvious reply. The methods apply to phones, social media, gaming and, increasingly, AI companions and chatbots.
It is not therapy, and I will say so directly if what you describe needs clinical care rather than coaching. Persistent low mood, harm to yourself, or a pattern that is costing you your safety deserves a GP or a therapist, and part of my job is knowing the difference and telling you honestly.
About me
I am a Senior Lecturer at the University of West London, a Registered Mental Health Nurse and a Fellow of the Royal Society of Public Health. The programme draws on the same evidence base as the workbook: motivational interviewing, cognitive behavioural therapy, lifestyle medicine and the recovery traditions that have helped people change compulsive behaviour for a century. Chandramani, the teacher whose stories run through the book, comes along too. A pattern learned can be unlearned, though rarely by arguing with it directly.
Fees
The Great Work — Core: £1,950, or three monthly payments of £695. The Great Work — Intensive: £2,950, with midweek calls, a household session and a 90-day follow-up.
Places are limited to eight clients at a time, because the weekday support is real and my replies are written by me.
[Book a free 20-minute call]
Short FAQ
Do I have to give up my phone? No. You will change your relationship with the one or two behaviours doing the most damage. Most clients keep every app they actually value.
What if I relapse in week ten? Then we have information we did not have in week nine. A lapse is data about a trigger we have not finished with yet. The relapse prevention session exists for exactly this.
Is this therapy? No. It is structured coaching built on clinical experience. If what you bring needs treatment rather than coaching, I will tell you, and help you find it.
How much time does it take each week? One hour with me, and twenty to forty minutes of worksheet time. The detox itself, in the final month, gives you time back rather than taking it.
Your attention has been sold. This is the programme for taking it back.
A 12-week, one-to-one coaching programme with Ruben S. Seetharamdoo, Registered Mental Health Nurse and author of Digital Detox: The Workbook. Built for professionals who pick up their phone a hundred times a day without deciding to, and who are done pretending that a screen-time limit will fix it.
[Book a free 20-minute call]
The problem, plainly
You do not have a willpower problem. You have a well-resourced industry on the other side of the glass, engineering the exact behaviour you keep blaming yourself for. The evening disappears into a feed. The first ten minutes after waking belong to the phone. The meal, the meeting, the conversation with your child, each one interrupted by a check you did not choose to make.
I spent thirty years in NHS clinical and managerial roles across addiction services, at Harley Street and at the Priory. If you had asked me in 1995 to name the behaviour doing the most damage to the most people, I would have said alcohol without hesitation. Ask me today and I will tell you plainly: it is compulsive digital use. The mechanism is the same one I treated for three decades. So is the way out.
What the programme is
The Great Work is twelve weeks of structured one-to-one coaching, built on my workbook and worked in the order it was written: four weeks mapping the habit and resetting its triggers, four weeks on the body, the ambivalence and the thinking that keeps the pattern in place, and a final month running a measured 21-day detox with daily structure and weekly data.
You will not be asked to throw your phone in a drawer. Total blackouts are the version of a detox most likely to fail. The research points the other way: a detox that is realistic, specific to the one behaviour causing the most harm, and proportionate to the actual pattern, consistently outperforms an attempt to quit everything at once. That is what we build.
Everything is measured. You take a validated-style self-screener in Week 1, Week 8 and Week 12, alongside the screen-time numbers your own devices record. By the end you are not guessing whether it worked. You are comparing three numbers.
How it works
Twelve weekly sessions on video, sixty minutes each. Worksheets between sessions, taken from the eighteen in the workbook. Message support on weekdays for the moments that matter, which are rarely the moments a session happens to be scheduled. Your copy of the workbook is included and posted to you before we start.
Who this is for
The professional whose focus, sleep and evenings are being spent by an app rather than by them. The person who has deleted Instagram four times and reinstalled it five. The parent who wants to be able to say "put the phone down" without hearing the obvious reply. The methods apply to phones, social media, gaming and, increasingly, AI companions and chatbots.
It is not therapy, and I will say so directly if what you describe needs clinical care rather than coaching. Persistent low mood, harm to yourself, or a pattern that is costing you your safety deserves a GP or a therapist, and part of my job is knowing the difference and telling you honestly.
About me
I am a Senior Lecturer at the University of West London, a Registered Mental Health Nurse and a Fellow of the Royal Society of Public Health. The programme draws on the same evidence base as the workbook: motivational interviewing, cognitive behavioural therapy, lifestyle medicine and the recovery traditions that have helped people change compulsive behaviour for a century. Chandramani, the teacher whose stories run through the book, comes along too. A pattern learned can be unlearned, though rarely by arguing with it directly.
Fees
The Great Work — Core: £1,950, or three monthly payments of £695. The Great Work — Intensive: £2,950, with midweek calls, a household session and a 90-day follow-up.
Places are limited to eight clients at a time, because the weekday support is real and my replies are written by me.
[Book a free 20-minute call]
Short FAQ
Do I have to give up my phone? No. You will change your relationship with the one or two behaviours doing the most damage. Most clients keep every app they actually value.
What if I relapse in week ten? Then we have information we did not have in week nine. A lapse is data about a trigger we have not finished with yet. The relapse prevention session exists for exactly this.
Is this therapy? No. It is structured coaching built on clinical experience. If what you bring needs treatment rather than coaching, I will tell you, and help you find it.
How much time does it take each week? One hour with me, and twenty to forty minutes of worksheet time. The detox itself, in the final month, gives you time back rather than taking it.